Relational Leadership Collaborative

Leadership Training

ALL IN Relational Ministry – Adults

FIVE MINUTES – to tell you all about it!

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Traditionally, the church does a great job answering the WHATs and WHYs of faith.
ALL IN adds the HOWs—practical relational skills that help people live their faith every day.

It’s more than a one-time event. ALL IN begins with a training experience and launches an ongoing commitment to equip and encourage every member to live out their faith in every relationship.

Through listening, caring, and welcoming, relational connections become ministry connections—real opportunities to love every neighbor, both inside and outside the church.

THE MANUAL

Manual Sessions

Doable, Livable, Repeatable Skills

  • WHEAT
    By popular demand! Pilot groups insisted, “If it’s from Peer Ministry Leadership, you have to include WHEAT!” This powerful, simple tool helps people connect deeply and quickly. Paired with the Good Samaritan story, it’s the perfect introduction and foundation for ALL IN Relational Ministry.
  • Faith Circled
    Discover your God-given purpose in life, ministry, and church. Reflect on how your faith has been shaped by real people—those who mentored, modeled, and walked with you. Learn the relational skills to do the same for others.
  • Hearing Hearts
    Ministry isn’t always about speaking—it’s about listening. Faithful listening to others’ joys, stresses, and sorrows can bring strength and healing. In this session, learn deep, practical listening skills.
  • Difficult Choices
    People around us face real struggles. You want to help—but how? Avoid quick-fix advice and learn how to guide others toward meaningful, lasting solutions through relational support.
  • Spirit Nudges
    Ministry starts by noticing. What caught your attention this week—something you saw, heard, or felt? Learn how to respond to those Spirit nudges with confidence and compassion.
  • Affirming
    This faith practice can change the world, one person at a time. When we affirm the good in others, we build trust, connection, and healing. Learn how to be intentional about building people up rather than tearing them down.

Manual Features

Seven sessions, each with several elements.

  • Use them altogether for a full session experience
  • OR
  • Choose one element to fit into a short experience. 

Discovery Learning

  • Following creative experiences, participants name what they are learning. 

Facilitators

  • Lead and motivate experiences
  • Ask questions
  • Affirm and celebrate answers

GETTING STARTED

On-Sight Training Experience

  • Pre-Zoom with Key Leaders
    An opportunity to understand the vision, prepare your team, and ask questions.
  • On-Site Training Experience
    A dynamic, hands-on relational skills workshop.
  • Post-Coaching Zooms (2–3 Sessions)
    Ongoing support with key facilitators to expand and sustain the learning.

Suggested Training Schedule 

  • 🕣  8:30 am – 2:00 pm
  • At least two or more people from every program and leadership group. 
  • All staff.
  • All evangelism and outreach leaders.
  • Anyone and everyone who wants to grow in relational ministry!
  • 🕑  2 pm – 4:30 pm
  • For key facilitators who will carry the work forward in various settings

Sunday Option

  • Preaching or teaching opportunity to reinforce the ALL IN message

COSTS:

ALL IN experience:  $2,500 + facilitator costs

  • Includes unlimited printing rights to the manual
  • On-site training session 
  • On-site training for key facilitators
  • Sunday preaching or teaching to reinforce the ALL IN message
  • One pre- and three post-coaching sessions
Video & Live Coaching Option

WHAT?

If bringing in an Associate trainer is not an option, then this is a great option for becoming a facilitator for your church!

  • Training for YOU to weave these skills into your congregation.
  • At least two direct Zoom coaching sessions to talk directly with Lyle, the author. how to best use for your church
  • No travel involved.
  • Short video helps for each session.
    • Imagine you are sitting in Lyle’s office and asking, “What do I need to know about this session?”
    • Lyle will share great tips, experiences, and suggestions to go with the manual.

ALL ABOUT ALL IN

WHO IS THIS FOR?

People in your congregation: 

  • As the title, ALL IN, suggests we believe every adult in your congregation can learn and enhance relational skills that will get used in all relationships and in all aspects of life!
  • We suggest you begin with two or three people from every program and leadership group in your church. 
  • We suggest everyone on your staff. 
  • Be sure to include leaders for evangelism and outreach committee members. 
  • Anyone and everyone who wants to come!

One strategy is to have a couple people from every group in your church represented. In this way you have people who can lead various elements for devotions, teach various skills, and have follow-up conversations about how people are using the skills in caring for others.

WHY TRAINING?

Learn it. Live it. Then teach it!

Learning and enhancing skills requires heart-to-heart, face-to-face, person-to-person practice. People know when you are only teaching from a manual. You have to teach this from experiences from your life! 

RESULTS

RESULTS?

Your church discovers that…

  • People Invite Others
        Adults gain the confidence and language to invite others to their church.
  • Relationships Deepen
           With better listening skills and genuine curiosity, connections grow stronger.
  • Young People Feel Valued
           As adults learn to notice and affirm, young people feel seen and needed.
  • Ministry Moves Beyond the Church Walls
           Relational skills extend into everyday life—impacting family, neighbors, coworkers, and more.
  • Your Church Gains a Reputation for Hospitality
           Members develop the skills to truly welcome others.
  • Faith Is Passed On Through Relationships
           Relational connections become central to faith formation.

AFTER THE TRAINING

AFTER THE TRAINING?
  • You continue to offer training experiences for targeted groups and individuals.
  • Lift up the key themes in sermons, newsletters, devotions and more.
  • All groups will use spiritual practices that help them care for and welcome others.
  • Illustrative stories of people’s experiences will be highlighted in written and oral sharing.
  • Themes are expressed visually in art and posters displayed throughout your facilities.

RESOURCES

ALL IN Relational Ministry Manual

A resource and training to enhance the relational skills of your adults to reach out, care, and welcome in everyday, everywhere relationships.

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