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The Living Room Summit

Family Ministry: Learn it where people live it!

Join Lyle Griner, Andrea Fieldhouse Griner, and Marilyn Sharpe in their own living rooms and congregations in Minneapolis, MN – the very places that people live their faith. June 22-24, 2010, experience three solid family ministries in three days.

With Andrea, experience her powerful Building Bridges, engaging families in learning faith practices, which they do in the congregation, then take home to do over and over again in their homes. Also learn her dynamic approach to Milestones Ministries.

With Lyle, learn to lead Full Circle Relationships, equipping adults to be authentic, available, and affirming and learning the skills to mentor children and youth on their faith journey. This is about the care and nurture of all of these children of God.

With Marilyn, explore two complementary approaches, teaching and supporting families to faithfully parent their children. Learn how your congregation can create, sustain, and nurture a parent support group and teach skill and faith-based parenting classes.

You’ve learned the language, read the research, studied the theology, and heard inspiring speakers. Now, it’s time to make family ministry a reality where you live and worship. Experience them. Learn them. Then, return to your congregation, ready to replicate and adapt what you have experienced.

Registration – including all meals, free resources, guided spiritual practices, 20 spiritual practices for families, and fun surprises – is limited to the first 15 to send a registration form and check for $295 ($350 after June 1) made payable to EveryDay, LLC to
EveryDay, LLC
9300 Queen Ave S
Bloomington, MN 5543_

For more information, questions, or registration form, call 612-418-5572 or email peermin@rlcollaborative.org.

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Temecula CA

Welcoming the Stranger was our theme for the weekend.

It is always one thing to talk about ideas… but it is such a joy to be able to put real skills to it. As Mike Carlson said to me… “ Inspiration lasts for a day, but transformation lasts for a life time.”

STAY TUNED next week we announce the LIVING ROOM SUMMIT!

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As a Dad – As a Youth Minister

AS a Dad


I have two boys. I wrote the following in the middle of the Black Hills one summer, as I pondered my role as a dad.

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  • Things that I pray for you!
  • Passion for faith
  • Life led with integrity and values
  • Respect for others and yourself
  • Organizing priorities, money and time
  • Practice and knowledge of health and wellness
  • Responsibility as a citizen of neighborhood, community, country and the world
  • ove and taking responsibility for family
  • Willingness to work toward and accomplish purposeful and passionate goals
  • Be able to discern and accept that all in life is not fair, equal, or honest. In other words, to know enough not to get taken advantage of and to know when to stand up for things that are not just.
  • Enjoy life, people, faith, talents and arts.


Love. – Dad

I think this list served me well as a parent. It has also helped guide my own life. The boys have copies of this list. It has never been
a secret. I think it has helped them to know me.


AS a Youth Minister

I recently did a series of phone interviews with parents. I began by asking, “If you were to write a letter to your son/daughter, describing what you hope their faith and life may be like in 15 to 20 years, what would you say?” I was surprised st the appreciation these parents expressed that anyone was asking that question.


Some of the recurrent themes included the hope that their young adult would:

  • Be surrounded by intentional relationships with Christian adults and peers. From a parent’s perspective, this was their biggest plea. “Help, I don’t want to do this alone. I need others who affirm, uplift, model values and encourage my kids .”
  • Participate in and value a worshiping community. All hoped “Church” would be a constant in their child’s future.
  • Continue to grow in biblical understanding. Often, this was expressed as a hope that youth could defend themselves. I sensed from these parents that they often felt ill equipped to explain much from the Bible.
  • Engage in faith conversations with peers, adults and households.
  • Live a life that is unprejudiced, open, and appreciative of diversity.
  • Demonstrate an attitude and practice of service.
  • Have a personal practice of prayer. Parents recognized that they could not “always be there.”

Ask…

  • What are the values that guide your ministry? How would you develop your list of desired outcomes?
  • How are you asking parents about what their spiritual hopes for their youth are?
  • How would such guiding outcomes effect a families decision to join a congregation?
I often get asked to evaluate a youth ministry program in a congregation. Most often, they want to begin by talking about particular program, maybe remembering a program that was really great 12 years ago, or wishing they had something as glitzy as what 1st Church of Whatever down the road is doing. It is too easy to get stuck looking at one program brick in the road, instead of looking at where the road is going.

Own your youth ministries outcomes. Don’t get caught looking at single bricks. Begin with the end in mind.

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Metro Lutheran Teens Encounter Christ


Some cold days spent with some very warm hearted people. This leadership group for T.E.C. is adapting their last day to include elements of Peer Ministry Leadership. They also hope to offer PML to past participants giving them further ways to live out faith and ministry beyond their weekends.

And a note from our host…

What a difference the Peer Ministry training has made in our Teens Encounter Christ program. Our entire council made the commitment to take the training so that we could better equip the youth, and adult, team members to better minister to the youth who come to our weekends. We have adapted our team meetings to include an abbreviated Peer Ministry training. It has infused our meetings with a greater purpose and enthusiasm. The result is a team more intentional in the way they reach out not only to the weekenders but to each other. What a blessing to see.

Gene Whitbeck, Vice President
Minnesota metro Lutheran Teens Encounter Christ

Gene Whitbeck, Vice President
Minnesota metro Lutheran Teens Encounter Christ